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from Bob
2011-01-03, 9:54 PM


My Dear Fellow Stags,


I wasn't able to share my story during the last day of the reunion, but I guess it's never too late to lay bare one's life especially to friends who are and will be, friends for life. To say that my feelings about attending the reunion was ambivalent is an understatement. This ambivalence has been there since our 25th silver anniversary reunion. It stems from a persistent feeling that I wasn't good enough to attend both reunions because I have not succeeded enough. I had dreams when I was in high school which I believe I have never or will ever reach. I have found myself wanting. I have judged myself, to say the least, a failure.


Whether this feeling finds basis in real life doesn't matter. I have had and continue to have my fair share of small successes but to me these are miniscule and much below par to what I have imagined myself to achieving.


Thus I have vacillated from attending and not attending, evident in the long silences in my emails and expressions of enthusiasm for the event. There were days when I felt I would never show myself to the Stags and days when I felt overjoyed at receiving news about the groundswell for the upcoming reunion.


But in the end, the better person in me prevailed. One morning I woke up and realized that all these feelings of falling short were feelings of insecurity and immaturity. I gathered the strength to text Chito that I was attending as well as hosting brunch. A feeling of peace and tranquility began to seep thru me. Replacing all the feelings of self-doubt that had been there for so long.


And so it was, as the song that I played first during the reunion goes- a bright sun-shiny day!


But not for long and through-out. By dinner-time, another but related feeling began to bother me. I know I had wreaked havoc on many occassions when I got myself persuaded by the 'spirit of the glass'. And I jostled with myself to stay or not and wreak havoc again.


I decided to leave instead - for the meantime. For this I apologize to my fellow Stags for leaving in haste and not being there for the second day and the sharing.


But I say 'leave for the meantime' because I believe even now in my firm resolve to be there the whole class reunion come our 40th.


To paraphrase Armstrong – small steps are needed by man to find the giant in him and take his leap of faith to rejoin humankind.


See you my friends!


Bob Peralta




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1 chito   (2011-01-05 9:48 PM) [Entry]
Dear Stags,

At the outset, may I greet Tito, "Happy Birthday" today.
I am sure you are in good ground, to say the least. By your own
merits, you have galloped to pastures where the grass is greener.
Be that as it may, still, we wish you all the best.

From our recent reunion, I am sure each of the 25 Stags who
attended has emerged richer, fuller, having gained more insight.
If the individual sharing and revelations were to be the basis,
"I therefore conclude" that we have surpassed expectations.
Albeit, all qualms and quandaries on whether or not to attend,
are now put to naught.

I was following the email thread, from Melo's outspoken hurrays on
the physical aspects of the reunion, to Bob's laying bare "to friends
who are and will be friends for life". I can discern that we have
consciously or subconsciously faced our very own, varying degrees
of frailties. Human as we are and subject to physical and mental
debility, we lay helpless at times. But Dennis L. has proven that
physical weakness is not a hindrance, but the mental or emotional
baggages that burden us from pursuing what really matters.
No will, no way!

Our learnings did not cease from high school graduation.
And what more meaningful learnings than those gotten from among
ourselves? Toots' having gone from rock bottom to material and
spiritual enrichment is classic. Who would ever think about it 36
years ago? Or Al and Tito, selling their priceless works of art to
raise funds for our classmate Eden, who is suffering from cancer?
I have always believed that goodness is inert or intrinsic in each
one of us Stags. There lies the click and clique of our clan.

In 36 years of journey, we have grown and outgrown. The theme of
our reunion, "Keeping track, back to our roots: All trails lead home"
entices us to retrace our tracks and look forward to the trail ahead.
In other words, may we not forget our origins, even as we gallop on
in pursuit of our goals.

As Tito celebrates his birthday today, let us celebrate Life too,
and everything that makes It worth for us...

... and look forward to our 40th.

Cheers to all Stags!

Chito
Life is a spectrum of colors.


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